There is a battlecry that has been bellowing inside of my lesbian body for as long as I can ever remember. Listen to me, straight girls. My weary bones are sore from a lifetime spent picking up heartbroken, baby dykes when they come to the bitter realization that you will never love them back I know you know what I'm talking about. You can giggle as sweetly as you want, but let's call a spade a spade, girl.
A re the days of lesbians being viewed with fear and faint disgust by our heterosexual sisters finally at an end? This morning I read with amusement a story in which Rachel Johnson admitted she recently took legal action to prevent the publication of allegations that she had had an affair with a female colleague. We all know about the often patronising claim that gay men make great friends for straight women because they love shopping, choosing curtains, can advise on clothes and makeup, and like nothing better than to sit around watching Rupert Everett films while sobbing into a cushion, surrounded by chocolates and bottles of pink fizz. Can this type of mutually beneficial friendship work between gay and straight women? The heterosexual girls, who usually hate men far more than we do, love lesbians when they are going through a crappy time with a male partner. They know they can talk about what absolute bastards men can be and find a sympathetic shoulder to cry on. If they stay over on the sofa after their drunken revelations all the better — they can return to the man the next day in the hope that he will have been tearing his hair out at the thought he might be dumped for another woman. Lesbians are certainly getting mainstream attention.
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She roared with laughter. It was friendship-love at first sight. Or so I thought. I want a banker. She pushed my hand away and looked me dead in the eyes. Listen to me. In fact, the thought of cuddling with you makes me want to vomit. I suddenly craved a cigarette. I always used to crave cigarettes when in the throes of a complicated life epiphany which is why I smoked a pack a day during my first few years of being out.
Updated: August 8, References. Attempting to "figure her out" just to satisfy your curiosity is unethical, and could even put your friend at risk of homophobic harassment. However, if your friend is crushing on you or vice versa, you may need to address it. Instead of trying to settle the question of your friend's identity, figure out what your goal is. Are you trying to defuse the situation and just be friends?